Had to have "the talk" with my daughter

[addiesmommy]

I was totally traumatized by it. I was soo not prepared for some of her questions. She asked specific questions about how the penis fits in the vagina ect. What the heck?!!? That totally threw me for a loop. Also she asked me how the penis gets "big" Oh God!!! I was hoping it would stay a generic convo. It didn't. She wanted details. Why can't they just stay little and play with baby dolls. I'm going to need a zanax! :speechless:

[princesshannon]

i highly rec. the book From Diapers to Dating. it helped me get over the freak out factor!

[thismelrocks]

:hugs: mama.

[snookemz]

omg, if our talk goes like that I'm gonna have valium ready

[Watermelandrea]

:speechless: oh wow :bighug: I'm so not looking forward to that one

[Purple]

:twitch: I dont want to go there.


:hugs:

[romanlili]

omg, if our talk goes like that I'm gonna have valium ready

save some for me!

[addiesmommy]

I didn't want to have it but she asked me if she was allowed to kiss boys. :speechless: So I thought we better go ahead and chat.

[Queen of pain]

:hugs: :hugs:

[Purple]

kiss boys at 9. :twitch:

cooties much at that age for me.

[Shaineinok]

I suggest getting a book. There are some good ones.

[addiesmommy]

kiss boys at 9. :twitch:

cooties much at that age for me.

She said she doesn't want to but wanted to know if it was "against the rules" :err:

[otis]

:teehee: I had to explain to my dd at the age of 6 that girls don't have penises. :err: Then I had to explain what girls DO have. Kissing? Well - we just tell all of them to keep their lips to themselves. That covers a few things. :o

[LadyLiz]

kiss boys at 9. :twitch:

cooties much at that age for me.
My 9 yr old nephew decided one day to inform me what french kissing was and to tell me he had french kissed his girlfriend. :speechless: I say again kid grow up too quick.

Mood: :sigh:

[Julie K]

omg!

so what did you tell her the boy kissing rule is? lol

[addiesmommy]

omg!

so what did you tell her the boy kissing rule is? lol


Kissing makes your tongue swell up and you can't breath. :twitch:

[BeccatheGreat]

Kissing makes your tongue swell up and you can't breath. :twitch:

:lmao:

[Anna1345]

Just tell her all about pillow pants (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wX01Lna0OI8) it should solve the problem! :toofunny::toofunny::toofunny:
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Seriously though... I remember having that convo with my now 13 yo I suspect it is much easier haing this convo with boys then girls (he already knew how the penis gets "big" :wink: ) I feel you! Really I do. Just be open and honest and K.I.S.S.

[TyAndCheyMommy]

Well look at it this way though... At least you and her both know that you have open communication about things like that... AND at least she isn't learning these things from friends- that don't really have a clue either.

My parents never gave me the "talk" and there are so many things that I wish I would have just been told instead of found out from other teens that were in the same boat as me...

[otis]

Kissing makes your tongue swell up and you can't breath. :twitch:

:rofl:

[Julie K]

Kissing makes your tongue swell up and you can't breath. :twitch:

:toofunny: I'll have to remember that one!

[ckck4]

:hugs: My ds and I had the talk when he was 5 :blush: Apparently he told the principal he couldn't wait to grow up and have sex with his sister :hide: I had to explain what it was and he was thoroughly disgusted :teehee: I just brought out a medical book and showed all the parts of the body and how it worked. lol. I really disliked our talk. lol.

[addiesmommy]

Just tell her all about pillow pants (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wX01Lna0OI8) it should solve the problem! :toofunny::toofunny::toofunny:


Oh dear Lord! I can't breath!! :toofunny::toofunny::toofunny::toofunny:
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:hugs: My ds and I had the talk when he was 5 :blush: Apparently he told the principal he couldn't wait to grow up and have sex with his sister :hide: I had to explain what it was and he was thoroughly disgusted :teehee: I just brought out a medical book and showed all the parts of the body and how it worked. lol. I really disliked our talk. lol.

oh my!! I bet you had some serious explaining to do to the principal! :speechless:

[Ahavati]

OH man. I have an 8 year old son...I'm dreading the "talk".

[Sweetiebird Fashions]

oh geez laura! sorry :hugs: i hate to bring it up but you know kids are going 'oral' far before anything else...lord only knows why! yuck!:hide: but...you may want to cover that as a no-no as well, dunno...

[Mamma_Viola]

I forgot about Pillow Pants!! LMAO!! Thanks for that reminder!!

Sorry you had to have that talk so young. But, it really is good that you have opened up that communication between the two of you. I hope it continues well into her teen years and beyond.

[ckck4]

Oh dear Lord! I can't breath!! :toofunny::toofunny::toofunny::toofunny:
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oh my!! I bet you had some serious explaining to do to the principal! :speechless:

It was super embarrassing, but my ds said one of the boys at school dared him to say that to her :shake: Poor kid. The principal was pretty good about it though. My ds is a very shy, quiet kid, so it made sense.

[~Jessica~]

omg I cannot believe this I am totally not prepared for any of this!! :lmao: Some of these responses are making me need a xanax

[HugnKiss]

first of all i'm sorry you had to do that!

but i am SERIOUSLY impressed that she is comfortable enought o just ask you all those questions. that is a serious accomplishment, mama! i was NEVER comfortable enough with my parents to talk about anything like that

[Treighsie]

I had never heard of Pillow Pants!! I wish I had thought of that :)

[tillers72]

:lmao:

[Picklesnapper]

Amielya is 8. Just turned 8. I think I'm pretty well prepared, though still scared, for the talk.

1. Kissing boys gives you hairy tongue: http://www.entusa.com/oral_pictures_htm/images/hairy_tongue_small.jpg


Sex makes babies and this is what happens when you have a baby ***insert video of their births live, in action, vag shots and all**

I'm pretty much going to tramatize them and they will never want men at all....


I'm totally kidding. I'm absolutely TERRIFIED of the talk. IDK WHAT I'm going to say. but I assume I will be reading some books.

[addiesmommy]

oh geez laura! sorry :hugs: i hate to bring it up but you know kids are going 'oral' far before anything else...lord only knows why! yuck!:hide: but...you may want to cover that as a no-no as well, dunno...

oh yes! We covered that as well. :sigh:



but i am SERIOUSLY impressed that she is comfortable enought o just ask you all those questions. that is a serious accomplishment, mama! i was NEVER comfortable enough with my parents to talk about anything like that

My parent's didn't talk to me about anything either so that's why I wanted to make sure we talked about everything early on with our kids. My parents did even tell me what a period was. I had one for months without knowing what was going on with me. Addison has known what a period is for YEARS. We've talked about puberty for YEARS. It was the sex stuff that scared me. :looky:
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omg! That tongue pic is horrible! Scary horrible!

[haelyn79]

OMG, that tongue scares me!

[gypsymama22girls]

When I had the talk with my now 11 yr old she asked if there were other ways to have sex :shakehead:I said that she didn't need to know about them at her age. I later found out that a friend of hers (or at least that is what she said) showed her pron sites to go to online. :sigh: She was semi-addicted or something...she was on them a lot...this is a story for another thread but just wanted to comiserate with ya.

Oh and...I was confused as to what that tongue picture was at first. :err: :speechless: :toofunny:

[Picklesnapper]

yes, its scary but also true google it

[the.real.babycakes]

Good for you for knowing it was time and good for her for being comfortable and talking to you, that's so great! We talk about sex all the time here. In a totally age appropriate way but I always wanted the boys (before dd) to feel comfortable asking me questions. We've always kept it simple and left any topic open to questions. DS1 is 13 (!) and is kinda small and a little dorky in a sweet way but no kissing for him yet. DS2 is 10 and when he's 13 I'm sure he'll have a first kiss already.

[manymillers8]

I had that talk with my eldest DD when she was 11. She quickly put 2 & 2 together that that was what DH & I had to do to make all these babies. :lol: She was *horrified*!

I had the talk with my eldest DS when he was 10. He was asking questions about the new baby on the way, so it kind of led into it. Just the other day he said he wasn't going to get married. I asked him why, and he said cause he'd have to kiss his wife and that was "just plain gross. Mama, don't you think it's gross??" I said, "yep - it's disgusting", right in front of DH. :giggle:

[Sweetiebird Fashions]

ok, seriously...I just finished eating dinner and then saw that tongue and had to scroll past it soooo fast before I lost my dinner. That is just sick! I could deal with it if it weren't so up close... yuck!

[otis]

oh geez laura! sorry :hugs: i hate to bring it up but you know kids are going 'oral' far before anything else...lord only knows why! yuck!:hide: but...you may want to cover that as a no-no as well, dunno...


This is why I told my kids "Keep your lips to yourselves" Kinda blankets a few areas. :err:

[kat1205]

the tounge picture needed a warning! Pregnant woman here!

[Picklesnapper]

If you ever have trouble getting your kids to brush their teeth, show them hairy tongue...Works like a charm.

Just sayin....

[~Jessica~]

That tongue is awful!

[Zee]

omgawd!!!!! i'm was sooooo not prepared for that tongue!!! now *I* afraid of french kissing!!!!! :ohno:
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*I'm*

[LadyLiz]

Yes, no more french kissing for you. :omg: Z you must french kiss, I want to see a baby number 6 announcement. :err:

Mood: likes baby announcements

[Zee]

but but me's skurred now!!! :panic:

[LilMamaK]

:panic:

but seriously mama, despite the horror of it all, it's great that she was comfortable enough to ask you all those uncomfortable questions, just means that she will be more likely to come to you about serious stuff in the future.

[LadyLiz]

but but me's skurred now!!! :panic:
:shakehead:

Mood::shakehead:

[Danni]

Wow, it terrifies me that I may only have 5-6 years till Zosia asks about this stuff. :hide:

I think I will start to look for a book now. You did so well though!

And Pillow Pants....man i had totally forgotten about that...time to find Clerks online!

[~*MaRy*~]

my 9 yo is still totally clueless thank God!!!

[JenniferH97]

I dread this talk with my daughter! Oh, and that tongue. Yuck. :speechless: My 2.5 year old saw it, pointed, and said "Poop!"

[gypsymama22girls]

I dread this talk with my daughter! Oh, and that tongue. Yuck. :speechless: My 2.5 year old saw it, pointed, and said "Poop!"

:toofunny:

[imjustagirl]

first of all i'm sorry you had to do that!

but i am SERIOUSLY impressed that she is comfortable enought o just ask you all those questions. that is a serious accomplishment, mama! i was NEVER comfortable enough with my parents to talk about anything like that
:yeahthat:

My oldest has asked quirte a lot because of my having little ones so hopefully it won't go quite like that for any of mine!

I don't awant to think of any of mine asking about if *they* can kiss! :speechless: technicalities is fine, explaining abiout babies ifs fine...but those babies doing anything like that? :lalala:

[jjaelovesenglish]

Just tell her all about pillow pants (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wX01Lna0OI8) it should solve the problem! :toofunny::toofunny::toofunny:
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Seriously though... I remember having that convo with my now 13 yo I suspect it is much easier haing this convo with boys then girls (he already knew how the penis gets "big" :wink: ) I feel you! Really I do. Just be open and honest and K.I.S.S.

I had never heard of Pillow Pants, but I am laughing so hard right now. Boys are so stupid that that makes for a great argument. :toofunny:

[melirod]

That is so awesome that she is so open with you! But yeah, I would be unprepared for those questions too! :giggle:

[LoveMuffins]

Okay that tongue REALLY made me throw up in my mouth a little!
As for the talk... yeesh.. I think all I'm willing to get into right now is "Please don't have babies until you are at least 20... and even then you may want to wait a little. Please finish highschool, I love you all but I wouldn't wish being a teen parent on anyone".
Maybe awful to say?? Yes, but it's very true. I love them, of course, but waiting would have probably done far better for me..

DD1 is 9 1/2... I wonder how soon I need to give her that talk.. my mom never gave it to me. -__-;;

[SuzieSunshine]

Wow!

I was hoping to wait until 11 or 12 for "the talk". This thread is scaring me! Do they really all need to know this stuff at 9? Is this "the age" now???

Though, if my kids ask about kissing that's fine by me... kissing is a far cry from sex! I plan to tell them the rule is "no kissing until you have a girlfriend/boyfriend and for that you have to be 14".

[addiesmommy]

Wow!

I was hoping to wait until 11 or 12 for "the talk". This thread is scaring me! Do they really all need to know this stuff at 9? Is this "the age" now???

Though, if my kids ask about kissing that's fine by me... kissing is a far cry from sex! I plan to tell them the rule is "no kissing until you have a girlfriend/boyfriend and for that you have to be 14".


You can wait as long as you want. I just wanted to make sure that I was the one that educated her and not some kid at school. I was to late. The reason I had to have the full blown talk was because some kid in her class told her about a blowjob but gave her bad info and I want her having the correct info.

[LadyLiz]

Chelle, I hate to bear bad news, but my 9 yr old nephew knows what a french kiss is and that he would admit to. The question is what else he knows. So, depends on the kid.

Mood: explaining

[kdina]

Oh Lord I am traumatized on multiple levels thanks to this thread.
That tongue pic? Yeah never kissing DH again, thanks for that.
And 9?! DH and I were talking about this today and we agreed we're locking our kids in their rooms till their 21.

[sciencefair]

This thread makes me glad my oldest is 2 and has no clue what sex is.

[AmyWA]

Oh man, I do NOT want to have this talk with my dd. Unfortunately, I have a feeling its going to be sooner rather than later. Sigh....

[HooahMama]

Our DD knows about eggs and semen (can I say semen? lol) but doesn't quite know about HOW they meet. Just that they do. We watched the John Lithgow narrated pregnancy video and it focused more on the science of the matter. Then we watched the Business of Being Born. We don't do epidurals in this house lol. My kid knows not to get into that mess early! lol. I know it sounds mean, but I have this theory that if epidurals were refused to teen mothers... we'd have a whole lot less of them. (Not judging... just sayin')

It was however fun to hear all about how your first kiss is like the best oatmeal cookie in the world. It belongs to your spouse. Think about it, how would you like to get married and watch your love hand you the best cookie in the whole wide world... only someone already ate half. (That from a 7 year old!) LMBO

[naughtymonkey]

Good job, mama. I tell parents all the time at this age that they need to start the conversation now. These kids hear so much at school and are so much more inundated with this stuff than we were at that age. They need to hear the proper information from their parents and also learn what is expected of them in regards to sex and boy/girl relationships.

[SuzieSunshine]

Oh Lord I am traumatized on multiple levels thanks to this thread.
That tongue pic? Yeah never kissing DH again, thanks for that.
And 9?! DH and I were talking about this today and we agreed we're locking our kids in their rooms till their 21.

Me too... me too!

You can wait as long as you want. I just wanted to make sure that I was the one that educated her and not some kid at school. I was to late. The reason I had to have the full blown talk was because some kid in her class told her about a blowjob but gave her bad info and I want her having the correct info.

:speechless: Oh hell no. Wow.

[JustTara]

We were watching iCarly the other night and a commercial for Always pads came on and we ended up having the start of the *talks*. My dd (8.5) was HORRIFIED that she'd someday start having "blood from down there" and wants to take something to make it not happen. She is no longer allowed to watch iCarly on live tv, only DVRed episodes....

[Anna1345]

We were watching iCarly the other night and a commercial for Always pads came on and we ended up having the start of the *talks*. My dd (8.5) was HORRIFIED that she'd someday start having "blood from down there" and wants to take something to make it not happen. She is no longer allowed to watch iCarly on live tv, only DVRed episodes....
I'm not saying this to be confrontational I promise but I think that is an unrealistic idea. I (like many other women) started my periods in the summer of 4th grade. It sucked, yea. But I had to know about it. It's a part of life....

[JustTara]

I'm not saying this to be confrontational I promise but I think that is an unrealistic idea. I (like many other women) started my periods in the summer of 4th grade. It sucked, yea. But I had to know about it. It's a part of life....
I hear ya, I do ;) However, she is in 2nd grade....I was hoping to not go too in depth for another year or so.