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justmommie56
07-25-2010, 05:56 PM
UGH. DS is driving me insane. He is almost 8 (in a couple of weeks) and doesn't listen to anything we say. His behavior has gotten worse with each year the last 4 years. I tried to tell "them" but they wouldn't listen.
He has to put his :twocents: in about every thing, stomps around, throws his fists, kicks his feet, :smartass:, acts like a friggin 2 year old not getting a toy in a store. Where I come from and where DH came from....we would have gotten our butts beat every time and probably not with our parents' hand either. His dad doesn't spank him and I usually don't but, nothing...NOTHING is working right now. Time out on the stairs usually works at his dad's house but, not here. He stomps, whines, and just doesn't sit in time out. It is driving me insane...have I said that already??
What's worse is we're moving to TX (if I could avoid it I would) and he's not going...let alone would his dad let him. He already lives 5 hrs away and by going to TX he'll be at least 15 hrs away, so I'll never get to see him except during the summer and Christmas. Plane tickets are just so high for every holiday. So, it really sucks.:sigh:
But, his behavior...UGH. He has recently started saying he wishes he was never born, wishes his sister was never born (says she gets him in trouble...she's 2), wants to run away, he hates me...blah blah blah all the pre-teen/teen mumbo jumbo. He normally sees a therapist for his "ADHD"...which I believe (and my therapist feels) it is all environmental and not hereditary since his dad and uncle had it. He acts the same way I did when I was younger and I didn't have ADHD...I just grew out of it since nothing my parents did helped (but my situation was a lot different). I don't want him to be that way because I understand what my parents went through...I just don't want him to get worse. Why does he have to act this way with me and not at his dad's house? I mean, I know his dad's gf :dq: gives him EVERYTHING he wants and manipulates him to the point he can't remember who his mom is long enough to call me mom!
If DH hadn't gotten laid off and we have to move...and had the money I'd take his dad back to court because the current agreement is NOT working...not hardly and hasn't for the last 3 years!
I don't know...I am just at a loss.
I guess I just needed to vent a little. I want to :boohoo:.

Queen of pain
07-25-2010, 06:17 PM
Oh mama :bighig: that sounds like such a hard situation.
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:bighug: :hugs: :comfort: That's more like it.

justmommie56
07-26-2010, 03:35 AM
Thank you :)

Yes, it is. His grandma came up to visit and his dad (more like his gf) and gma had an argument about her coming up here. That is just so childish of them...she's an adult and let alone HIS mother! She can do what she wants. But, she took us out to dinner and we're going to be visiting with her tomorrow and going to Busch Gardens, Williamsburg on Tuesday and a dolphin watch excursion Wednesday. So, at least he gets to see his gma a lot. He is spending the night with her at her hotel tonight. At least he is out of my hair for the moment. I really needed a break! And, DD crashed early tonight from swimming so, at least DH and I got some needed time together too. :)

Shona
07-26-2010, 04:48 AM
Have you thought about a developmental Pediatrician or a neurobehavioralist. The Neuro could tell you if it biological or psychological. I have one son that is ADHD/ Bi-polar II and ODD. I have another who is ADHD/OCD/ODD ODD is oppositional defiance disorder.
BUT it could be the life situation he's in and that he's 8. I have an 8 yr old who is going through something that.. I cannot even break through. I have no way of telling you what's going on with him and can't get him seen any time soon. BUT.. I would see what you could do. Talk to his Pediatrician! That's what they are there for. WE DON"T HAVE TO FIGURE THIS OUT ON OUR OWN!! A friend of mine took a long time in coming to that realization. And she and her DD are paying for that.

Manda78
07-26-2010, 05:39 AM
That stinks...maybe he is stressed about you moving and doesn't want to talk about it? Good luck mama.

jujusmommy
07-26-2010, 05:48 AM
:bighugs:

justmommie56
07-27-2010, 02:11 PM
Have you thought about a developmental Pediatrician or a neurobehavioralist. The Neuro could tell you if it biological or psychological. I have one son that is ADHD/ Bi-polar II and ODD. I have another who is ADHD/OCD/ODD ODD is oppositional defiance disorder.
BUT it could be the life situation he's in and that he's 8. I have an 8 yr old who is going through something that.. I cannot even break through. I have no way of telling you what's going on with him and can't get him seen any time soon. BUT.. I would see what you could do. Talk to his Pediatrician! That's what they are there for. WE DON"T HAVE TO FIGURE THIS OUT ON OUR OWN!! A friend of mine took a long time in coming to that realization. And she and her DD are paying for that.
No, we have been taking him to a child psychologist and to my therapist as well but right now our TRICARE is all wonky and so we have no insurance until they update DHs crap. But, I don't think it's any of that...the ADHD, he's already on Focalin for but, he never takes it when he comes to my house (wasn't an issue really).
I just found out that they are putting him back in his old school (which I told them if they moved him his behaviors were going to get worse...well, now they think it's THEIR idea).
I just don't think any of it's helping because he wants what he wants when he wants it. Kwim? LOL.

That stinks...maybe he is stressed about you moving and doesn't want to talk about it? Good luck mama.
Nah, this has been going on WAY longer than that. I just told him like a week ago that we were moving and this has been getting worse for awhile. Yesterday his gma was about ready to bust his butt herself.
I know it's going to be hard for him when/if we "leave" him but, we don't have the $ to go back to court and I know his dad isn't going to agree to letting me take him with me...even just for a year to see if it helps (him being with me instead). I mean, they're already pulling him out of one school and putting him back in the other, as I mentioned in the reply above, so I've been right all along...he doesn't need to be with his dad.....or mostly his dad's gf.

:bighugs:
Thanks :)